Diagnosis of mental health needs either Neurosis or Psychosis can have a profound effect on relationship either Platonic, Romantic, Employment, Family both immediate and extended because of the “monster stigma” associated with mental health needs. We all have health needs either physical or mental however mental health needs tend to attract more repugnancy and stigma because of Ignorance and stereotypes.
Commencing a relationship can be very daunting and nearly impossible with mental health needs. However there are very lovely and knowledgeable people out there who will empathise and love you for who you are not who you are suppose to be. Under this category come my soulmate who from day one supported and motivated me. I am always open about my mental health needs. On our first date I told her about my mental health needs and she said “I do not have a problem with your mental health needs. I am a social worker by trade and I know from my training that people with mental health needs are just as normal as every other person in the society. 1 in 4 have a mental health needs.” I was over the moon and thank God for sending me an angel who have all humanistic values and unconditional love for me.
However extended family has been another kettle of fish. I almost sacrificed my life for my extended family at the detriment of my immediate family but some of them choose to treat me with contempt, disdain and disrespect because of my labelling and the associative stigma to them even though they are very religious and suppose to exemplify the unconditional love of God. I am Johnson not Psychosis. I was abused as a child both physical, psychological, emotional and sexual as well as tortured during my adulthood in Nigeria and Germany all these culminated and triggered my psychotic phenomena. My people they say perish for lack of knowledge. I will like to use this opportunity to categorically emphasise that someone with physical health needs is not better than me with mental health needs. You may have problem with your Digestive, Endocrine, Integumentary, Reproductive, and Respiratory systems etc, and I only have Nervous system needs. I strongly recommend an orientation to reality and the acquisition of knowledge to cure my extended family of this myopic judgemental tendencies.
I have lost friends due to my openness with my mental health needs and stigmatisation. However I am not bothered because I know my best friend will always be with me until the end of time. I have accomplished a lot in life and I have no regret. I will always and forever be open about my mental health needs. Mental health needs is not an impediment stigma is.
Join me in the fight to stop mental health stigma.